How can we get the government to bring more equality to the investing world?

I have noticed that most investors are either White, Jewish or Asian. I have met very few African traders in my 20 years as a trader. Most of the Hispanics I met were also only part time traders. I have also only ever met one woman who was a successful full time trader. She was my first wife.

My question is how can we allow this bastion of sexism/racism/inequality to remain erect? For gosh sakes it’s 2011! Any ideas?
Come on guys. Seriously, this is a major social issue.

The New Breed of Celebrities?

I maybe completely alone here. Does anyone else feel that WallStreet & the Financial Markets are going to be the new cool? That very successful traders will become celebrities when people realize that they shape the world & their actions could have effects on everyone (As Micheal Douglas so accuratley displayed “Greed is Good”)? At the moment (being a young hedge fund trader) it just annoys how people are so oblivious to how the markets shape their lives & I think it time we got some just recognition!
A prime example there just how little people appreciate. The Credit Crunch started with traders selling huge positions causing massive lack of confidence in investors which made people realize just how little value these packages of good & bad credit were worth. Now the amount of mortgages taken out in the last 6 months has decreased by 70%+. People cannot buy homes, cars etc. Yet people just go along in a normal day pretending these things happen for no reason. Celebrities are famous because they millions $ a movie. That is absolutely nothing, Nothing on Wall Street.
“There is a sufficiency in the world for man’s need, but not for man’s greed.

Black History Question?

Who was a successful trader and entrepreneur who laid the foundation for one of the largest and most important cities of the world, Chicago?

The Democrats greatest fear appears to be coming true?

It appears The troops will be successful in destroying the insurgence, Bush will declare the Operation a success for the Iraqis the American people, the troops, and for the rest of the free world. The troops will return home with the appreciation they deserve. The Democrats will be seen for the traders they are just before the 08 election and never be a real party again. What do you think?

Can I open a options trading account?

I have really bad credit. Can I still get approved for opeing a scottrade options account? I already have an account open with scottrade with margin trading activated. I just want to activate my options trading on the same account also. But i have horrrible credit. I have filled out the paper application and im about to send it into the mail. On the questions about net worth, income, employment, I may of had madeit look alot better then the truth. Basicly I beefed up my application with lies. Will I get approved for options trading still?

Best trading platform for beginners?

I’m looking to start out in the world of investing and am curious as to which brokerage is the best choice for a beginner. I have heard great things about Tradeking, optionsXpress, and Scottrade, and I have been using a paper money practice account on TDAmeritrade’s Thinkorswim platform so I am already somewhat familiar with that. Which firm is the easiest/best for a beginner to learn? I am looking at mostly trading stocks and options contracts, I don’t want to get into futures yet because they’re too risky. If it helps any, I have a decent understanding of the market and I follow it pretty religiously.

Trades/Other College Options?

My daughter is a senior in High School and is undecided on a major. She is planning on attending the local community college for her first year. But I don’t want her to go to college for 4 years and end up with a piece of paper that millions of others have who still haven’t found work to match their degree.

I am encouraging her to possibly attend a trade school to learn not only something that makes her more marketable, but also something she would enjoy. When I think of trades, the more masculine ones come to mind. But I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on specific trades tailored more toward females.

Thanks for any ideas.

Term paper due tomorrow!! Please help me find information so I can write it!?

All students will write a short paper (6 enumerated pages double-spaced). Students have two research options, both rooted in a comparative politics framework. It may either compare 2 countries (not necessarily those covered in class) or structures/arrangements in dealing with conflicts; or comparing 2 countries in their approaches to European Union policy issues.
Here is my topic.. please give me links so I can type my essay!
“for my final research paper I intend to discuss and compare the international relations policy of Britain and Germany. In doing so I plan on exploring the issues of trade, military systems and national defense.”

How do I create an interactive stock chart (ie. not a picture) and display it on the website ?

I have written a program that generates stock data information, including buy/sell and prediction and using a generator to take this information to project future values. I would like to graph this (real time if possible) so that I could display it on the web.

I know I could create a static picture in excel and then paste it on a website…but I would rather have it interactive and have users pick there own stock and have it spit out data and real-time signals and images…ie. if it’s not that hard to do.

Is there an easy way to do this ? Anywhere to download a template that I could interface with my system? Any specific books or websites that may describe an easy way to do this ?

Many thanks for any replies
Do you have any specific titles of books or website you can recommend?

I have books on flash, but they do not address specifically stock graphs.

Also, I appreciate the suggestion of blogspot…but based on where I currently reside, it looks like the Chinese gov’t is blocking access to that site. Any other suggestions?

Brother won’t leave house or get job. (Warning: LONG)?

Here’s the situation:

My brother and I both live at home with my Dad at the moment, but our reasons why are extremely different. I live at home to reduce costs while I pay off some bills. It is also more cost effective for my father as I will often put gas in his car, pay for grocery trip, or snatch up one of his bills to pay now and again.

My brother on the other hand, has no reason. He is 20 years old and will not leave the house unless he has to. My mother (who left a long time ago) blames my father, which I find hard to believe since the two of us turned out so completely different. Besides, she raised us too.

Yes, my father spoils us. No, I don’t think he made my brother a selfish, financially dependent introvert. He has always been a little different: got teased in high school, never pursued friendships, etc.

August 2007: My Father presents my brother with an option, since he had been off school for a year and goes months without leaving the house. We even had to hound him to shower more than once a week. He absolutely refused to get a job. (And no, my Dad can’t just “kick him out”. We’d find him sleeping in the backyard or something.) Anyway, my father said: School or Job. My brother chose school, and my father paid for his tuition and books. He let my Dad pick his course, as he did not care what he took. He then failed it, and won’t go back because he doesn’t care about it. I’ve been in an outrage since because I *KNOW* what I want to go for, yet I don’t get the offer due to my lifestyle. (IE. My Dad feels I can fend for myself)

First question: Am I right to be bitter towards my father and brother about this?

So fast forward to end of term this year: months later he’s in the same situation again, and refuses to get a job. We have tried all sorts of approaches. I explained to him that work was much more satisfying than school, as it was kind of (?) similar, but with a paycheque. He is obviously not a people person, so I spoke to him about jobs where he could work alone stocking shelves. When I thought maybe I was taking the wrong approach, I tried to talk to him about other kinds. We also have to volunteer in high school to graduate, and told him that it was EXACTLY like that, but still, nothing. He won’t go.

I’ve been trying my hardest to do the nice approach, yet he just shrugs me off. Finally I snapped. Mostly because he takes a “doesn’t involve me” approach, from family financial issues to even small things like: wash your lunch dishes. I have lost my temper at him maybe a dozen times in his entire life (seriously), but that day I had a good shout saying that he was an adult and should act like one, and that his food and clothing cost money. I got a little carried away and made a thoughtless quip about him waiting so long he’d turn into a 40 year old parent-moocher with not a lick of employment history. He did not understand that this was me insulting him. Not that he has planned it, but he has just ASSUMED that yes, he would stay home, unemployed, forever. We then decided to discuss what was going to happen when my Dad passed away, but this did not bother him either as he planned on inheriting the house. I asked him how he was going to pay the utilities, the property tax, and of course I get another dumb look. Now I know he has been exposed to this through high school, even college. How do you yell at someone when you realize they have absolutely no grasp of reality? I just am at my wit’s end, and have no idea what to do.

My Dad decided to act and take him out job hunting. It lasted about 30 minutes before they had to come home. My brother was having an actual panic attack (he started shaking, sweating buckets, and even threw up).

He says no to seeing people about this problem. He says no to school. He says no to work. We want to support him, and to help him, but this can’t go on. He constantly talks about what a terrible childhood he had, and I’m starting to think maybe he needs professional help? But again, he says no. I could understand if he meant his SCHOOL childhood was terrible, but he’s saying home? Could something truly be wrong with him, as my parents have never been anything but supportive and understanding. When I point out circumstances, or show him pictures where he’s laughing, he says he doesn’t remember that. He only remembers the few times he got into trouble, and when he recalls them they are horribly exaggerated. My parents were never abusive. They never compared us to each other (no: Your sister gets A’s type thing.).

My second, and most important question, through this long story, is what should I do?
So many fantastic answers, thank you all so much for your feedback!

how to ask out a shy girl i work with?

well i work at a wear house been there 3 years and she started there less then 2 years ago when i 1st met her i always said hi here and there to make her comfortable i try to do this with all new people but she was diff i always tried picking on her here and there but she would just smile and keep working and/or give a small response to please me.

Well maybe last year we got Little closer and for the longest time I had very small feelings for her but thought nothing really of it and dated other girls outside of work or looking else wear. We would pick in the same zone once in a while we’d talk a little and id make her laugh here and there but most of the time around her i wouldn’t know what to say and run dry mid conversation.

lately I’d say less then 4months ago the feelings built up but didn’t do much about it. less then 2months ago i changed shifts and my break is when she gets off of work and she sits in the break room to wind down and after maybe a week or to of seeing her siting by her self one day i took a chair sat at her table instead of with my friends so it was obvious.Then that week my friends told me to ask her out by the end of the week or they would so this made me nervous.That week every time she walked in they’d make stupid barking noises, (oh there you go)etc. Friday came and I started casual asked about weekend plans and told her mine and I asked her to hang out some time then she made it look like it was hard and said shed think about it then we both blushed with smiles her eyes shifting back and forth then we talked about something else.

2weeks later she messaged me on Face Book saying she likes to talk to me at work but shes not interested in a relationship yet( I know shes a Christian and I am too so I told her im not ready either im still praying about it) (also Ive been praying for a girl friend for 2 years even before i met her), Then I found out My Christain friend talked to her about the situation so i think that made her think even more.
Now present day a month after her answer im on yet a diff shift so i see her alittle more I work around her while shes picking because i stock the product and i talk to her more and still i forgot to mention i always start the conversation she never does but we end up talking until we have to go because we’re working. lately whats happend is that i worked in a shelving area that saw a is there picking area and while i was stocking i saw a red blob from the corner of my eye and then she walked in my exact area and i noticed her there and she was cleaning that area and we talked alittle but noticed her around alittle more since she found out i like her.

Sorry this is so long trying to be detailed.

My thoughts are that shes liked me for maybe along time and just didnt know how to talk to me because shes shy around everyone but was more so toward me, and now we talk each others heads off. OH maybe a week or 2 ago i saw her on Face Books IM and talked to her and i showed her typing then not then typing for a while then not this went on for a few mins we talked about her hand she had a cyist at the time i was asking about it and told her to pray about it and I saw the typing then not thing for a while then i changed the topic and she responded right away.

I think she really likes me but is waiting for maybe an answer, but lately I feel realy good around her and think about her all of the time.

So after a very long winded discription what do you guys think I should do just continue what im doing? I have this week off and in another week i go back to my other shift so we’ll be able to talk one on one again I was thinking of waiting maybe til then or til im stocking around her and ask some friends of mine there (they know the situation) to go bowling and ask her and tell her to bring some one so maybe I can break the ice more. What do you think?

WHERE can I find the software to screen for THIS PATTERN HELP?

READ THEN GIVE INPUT

Look bellow at Diedrich coffee DDRX over the past six months (chart at the bottom of this) it has had a massive gain: Stocks like this one and others that I seen come out of what is called a “Narrow Sideways Price Channel”! In other words in this case it was at a relatively FLAT price or price channel when it was a penny stock and then it stated picking up momentum. There is a rule I once remember reading in an investing book that if a stock or commodity is in a narrow flat price range: if it STARTS to gain momentum in will generally continue on in that direction until resistance is met. In other words if there is a 20 dollar stock and it stays almost the same price for 3 month but then all of a sudden starts falling to 18 and bellow, then it will probably KEEP going down for a long time to come i.e. falling demand. The same holds true for this stock if a stock that’s 35 cents which it was and stays flat and then goes to 1.10 there is a good chance it will keep going up i.e. rising demand. I have SEEN this pattern before it’s amazing how it seems to work. SOOOO how can someone screen for this or find this? IS there software for finding horizontal narrow price channels?

http://moneycentral.msn.com/investor/charts/chartdl.aspx?showchartbt=Redraw+chart&D4=1&DD=1&D5=0&DCS=2&MA0=0&MA1=0&C5=1&C5D=26&C6=2009&C7=4&C7D=1&C8=2009&C9=0&CF=1&symbol=DDRX&nocookie=1&SZ=0&CP=0&PT=5

Is there a way to invest in small oil exploration companies?

Is there a way to invest in small exploration companies in the TX/ LA area? How much does it cost per day to drill for oil?

How does investing work… (oil companies)?

I would like to invest in oil companies are anything that will has a gib return.

How does investing work (the different types)?
What are the risk?
Any other details/websites

how to invest in oil in 2011?

since no real interest is being payed on savings accounts or cds, i assume it would be better to invest to see more profit

how to start buying oil stocks?

I would like to invest in oil but am really confused about the whole process. Do I buy the oil companies or oil? What are the differences in stocks and barrels. I looked up Exon and it was 69.00 but oil prices are 40.00 a barrel. Thank you for your help!

how do go about buying stocks and bonds. I need to start making money work for me?

I have 30K to use to buy stocks. I need to make lots of money quick,what stocks do I buy?

If I have $40,000 and I use the money to buy stocks….?

is there any telling how much money I can make in a year? If I play the stock market smart can I make $20,000 by years end??

I am 14 and I want to know how to research a company before I buy there stocks.?

I know of teens are involved in the stock market online and they are doing well I guess. The reason why I say that becuase I found articles online saying that they were making money, and reusing that money to buy more stocks. I know the market is down but I want to learn all about stocks and investing. So how do I research stocks and the Companies track records??

looking for someone with experiance with stocks?

alright im trying to do some research on investing on stocks and i need some tips that would be use full for a beginner

Interested in learning about buying stocks, but clueless.?

I’m wanting to learn how to ease my way in to buying stocks. I know that there’s a lot to learn. I’m wanting to find inexpensive ways to invest. I am disabled and live on a fixed income, so I have to start out small (very small) and work my way up.

I know that a lot of people recommend certain books, but I can’t do that. I’m visually impaired, and even have a hard time reading large print books. Are there any sites with easy to understand instructions/guidelines/tips, etc for beginners?

Also, what are some good trading sites to use for someone wanting to start out small? Little to no fees, no minimums, reliable, etc if any exist?

Any help or advise would be greatly appreciated.
And to a couple people that replied. I do not plan on investing more than I can afford to lose. That’s why I said I need to start very small. (I was thinking $20-$50 just to start with). I wouldn’t dare invest so much that I would be screwed if I lost it.

I need an expert on the stock market, I am a beginner.?

I know the basic information about stocks like what they are, but I do not understand what all the numbers mean when looking at stocks. Like what do all these numbers mean?: http://www.google.com/finance?q=NASDAQ%3AGOOG

Please help, i have about a month until i invest in my first stock.
Any tips I need to be successful?
Also, how much money can the average person make in stocks in about two or three months?
Thank you for anything you have to say.

Celestron C9 1/4-SGT (XLT) Questions?

I am in the middle of upgrading scopes from my Meade ETX-80at-tc to a scope thats good for beginner astrophotography and that will last me a long time. I have done an imense amount of research on mainly Celestron scopes since I wasn’t too pleased with my Meade. I have a 35mm fully manual camera and hopefully i want to invest in a DSLR thats not too much (around 400-500$) if anyone can help me or show a good camera and even some beginner astrophotography tips that would be awesome.
Also I have chosen this C9 1/4-SGT (XLT) because next school year I will be a Junior in High School and will be doing an individual research/class on Astrophotography that I will present to a crowd of people. So i can use all the tips you can give me to have some sucess with Astrophotography, i know most of it is trial and error but i am willing to work hard at anything i do.

successful day trading stories?

I am going to start day trading and was wondering if there is a website that lists people who have been successful and there stories. We always hear so much about the people that fail, there must be people that succeed.

Thanks

Can stock brokers see your trading strategy?

If you have a successful trading strategy what prevents someone from schwabb or scottrade from stealing the strategy? How can I protect myself?
1) these strategies exist, investigate Renaissance Technologies. There is no luck in these trading strategies but pure brilliance. What about direct access trading platforms

Hi I was wondering if anyone has been successful with e currency trading?

How to be successful in forex trading?

How much does the stock exchange make per share trading stock .?

Millions of shares of stock are traded every day in the New York Stock Exchange. How does the exchange profit from doing this, do they get a certain amount per share? Watching television on a trading day at the New York Stock Exchange you see hundreds of people waving and screaming holding up little pieces of paper, what is this paper? Who are these people and how do they get paid?

How do you get stocks out of E*trade with out selling them? Do they issue paper stocks?

I used to be in an employee stock purchase program. The stock magically went in an Etrade account. Now I am being charged quarterly for the account. I don’t want to sell the stock as the value has fallen (and it’s my rainy day fund), but I can’t see paying etrade for a service I don’t need (ie sit and wait on stock). Can’t I get a broker to sell them down the road when I’m ready?

How do you go about selling a paper Stock Cirtificate of share’s in a company?

I have 300 shares of a company in a cirtificate. But im used to trading through an online broker. I never had a paper stock cirtificate and was wondering how do i sell the shares.

How do we redeem stock from paper stock certificates purchased 11 yrs ago?

This was a present for a child that did not have an online trading account – it was from one company and we got the actual paper certificates which we still have somewhere.
Disney company – not a large amount

How can you assure you won’t get screwed when you set a limit price?

This is the situation I am worried about. Stock is trading at 10.15 and you want to sell it when the stock hits 10.00 but you only want to sell the stock if the price goes down to 10.00. What is to stop the market maker from sending the stock down to 10.00 to pick up your shares and then jacking the price back up to 10.15?

How to invest money safely/ how to pick financial advisor?

I am the type of person who used to put my money into CDs. That was my only means of investing. but now the CD rates are horrible. So I am looking for other ways to invest. But I want to invest with very low risk. I am a low risk low gain type of investor.

But I have no idea where to go to invest my savings. I dont want to trade stocks on my own. So im not interested in a scott trade, etrade and places like that. I want someone to manage my investments that know what they are doing.

So what can I do? Can I just walk into a morgan stanley office or a fidelity office and ask to speak to anyone there? What are some things that they will ask me when i go there? What should i be looking for when i decide where to invest my money.

I am very new to all this and dont want to loose money. I just want to make a well informed decision.

Can you help me pick out a new computer?

I used to know computers well, but when Intel switched to Dual Core, I had no idea how to compare processors and which one is faster, and what the actual Ghz or Mhz really meant. Like 2Ghz Core 2 Duo vs. 1Ghz Core Duo.

I primarily use my computer for simple functions. I surf the internet, use it to chat, trade stocks, listen/download music and videos. I also do some video (m4p) encoding sometimes.

What kind of Intel processor should I get? Can you help me understand the differences between all the different processors Intel is offering?

I think I understand RAM.
Davis, if you’re reading this, how does 2.6Ghz P4 compare with 2.6Ghz Duo Core?

My main thing I guess is I have lots of browser windows open. As I’m typing now, there is a split second lag between the time I hit the keys on my keyboard and when I see them appear on the screen. Very strange!

Who thinks they have enough insight for a mock draft?

Interested to see how people think the draft will unfold after at the end of the month. I don’t buy into Kevin Durant’s stock falling, and now Boston may trade their number 5 pick. How do you guys see the lottery picks shaping up. And if you feel the need to go the distance in the first round, be my guest, I’m interested in what people have to say

are these or any of these things make our country more corrupt than any 2nd or 3rd world country?

I love america but nowadays it seems harsh….right around 1995 it seemed corrupt and since then it has gotten worse…way worse. I think these are the top 10 things that made our country worse:
1. Greed in stock market…in the 90′s everybody made money, then lost money, now it seems everybody is greedy all over again
2. Increase in taxes….might not seem like you’re paying more, but you really are when it comes to property taxes, the home i lived in in 1992 where taxes were 400 to 700 dollars are now 4100 to 4500…is that exponential growth!?
3. No strong leadership….the leaders now can’t really push hard on what SHOULD be done, they puppet around wasting their time with illusions to brainwash taxpayers to believing illusions
4. Massive layoffs to come. People will get laid off or enter jobs they would have never thought they would work in. We will work at wal mart and food services, while indians come here, take our colleges over, and become doctors (not prejudice)
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Wrestling Weekly by LJD Smalls?

Hey guys, back with another blog and this will involve myself giving you a lowdown of what i thought of the weeks action along with my top five matches of the week and a quote of the week. If you like this check out my youtube account, i make videos on things which you might prefer. Here is the link, http://www.youtube.com/user/ljdsmalls so go and check out what i do! Lets get down to business!

Raw – 19th October 2009: Overall, i relatively enjoyed this weeks Raw and i thought Snoop Dog did a pretty good job compared to the losers from last weeks Raw. Along with this we got a great match, yes smarks may disagree like always, but Cena and Hunter pulled out the stocks pretty good for two guys who are apparently ‘poisining’ the company. We also got some angles advanced and packed into this was a little teaser of the somewhat imminent DiBiase face turn. Apart from Cena vs. Hunter there wasn’t anything too special but in retrospect i rather enjoyed this episode of Raw. Smalls Rating: 7/10

ROH on HDNet – 19th October 2009: Using the power of youtube i am able to watch these shows and i feel damn lucky for it. The reason being that i got to witness what was probably match of the week as Danielson performed in what was possibly his last match for ROH against rising star Austin Aries and if i do say so myself it was fine contest. I also thoroughly enjoyed the opener and thee only dampener was the injury sustained by Lynn. Overall i was another good show, thats two in a row on my count! Smalls Rating: 7.5/10

ECW – 20th October 2009: Wow, Jericho is on ECW. I have to say this now, his visit to ECW was booked great as not only did he get some attention for ECW but he also put over their champion which can be nothing but a good thing. Aswell as the damn good main event we got a solid undercard with pretty much all the main angles in ECW being adavanced and we finally have a new number one contender. So out of the 3 shows so far all of them have been good! Smalls Rating: 7.25/10

WWE Superstars – 22nd October 2009: No matches above two and a half stars can’t be good. Although the general feel of the show didn’t seem so bad, in hinesight it wasn’t all that good at all. The main event was decent but nothing too spectacular, however this was the best match of the night for the reason that it put over the two new stars rather nicely. Smalls Rating: 4.75/10

TNA Impact – 22nd October 2009: Another good impact, TNA may have really started a new era as to me everything they have done in the last few weeks has been an improvement. Although a Cage match and Ultimate X may seem like overkill it seemed to keep the big vibe going after BFG and that is the momentum they need going into Turning Point. Yes, the same old dumb stuff stuck around but all angles were advanced and we saw a great debut for indy star Nigel McGuinness, i mean Desmond Wolfe. Smalls Rating: 7.5/10

Smackdown – 23rd October 2009: Well, another average Smackdown. Infact, Raw was better this week but to be honest Smackdown wasn’t that bad. The main event was actually pretty good and advanced the angle at the same time which was good to see. I also enjoyed the tag team match but overall it just didnt feel like the Superb Smackdown i was used too. Maybe when the focus is shifted again it will be good again but i just feel a bit letdown by the progress of the show. Smalls Rating: 6.5/10

Top 5 Matches of the Week – Honourable Mentions:
Beer Money vs. British Invasion – TNA Impact – ***
Yoshi Tatsu vs. Zack Ryder – ECW – **3/4
Jerry Lynn vs. Kenny King – ROH – **3/4

Top 5 of the Week:
5. Undertaker vs. CM Punk – Smackdown – ***
4. Christian vs. Chris Jericho – ECW – ***1/2
3. MCMG vs. Lethal Consequences – Impact – ***1/2
2. Triple H vs. John Cena – Raw – ***3/4

AND NUMBER ONE IS!

1. Austin Aries vs. Bryan Danielson – ROH – ****

And now its time for Quote of the Week, who wins the award!

HHH to Kofi: ‘When did you lose the accent’

Great stuff, DX has been doing pretty good comedy seeing as its PG and all!

Thats all for now, see you later!

Father’s Lawyer Harassing Me?

Sorry if this is long but I need help! I am a 22 year old disabled woman. I have been disabled and diagnosed with my disorders during my mid-teenage years. My parents were also divorcing during this time period, my father quit having anything to do with me. I continued to live with my mother, and am still living with her because she helps me with my problems, and I help her as well. Of course, I pay half the bills and have other monthly bills.

My father re-married and moved across the country. Since I am disabled, and am not living with him, he still has to pay child support. He has taken me to court about 8 times since my 18th birthday, and each time the same judge always settles on my behalf. I am on several different medications to control my problems, both physical and mental. I cannot work, and this has been determined through many tests and doctor visits and of course, being on disability without the help of a lawyer. My father has always been resentful to me and now that he is re-married, he doesn’t call me, check on me, talk to me, and hasn’t even seen my face except in the court room. He has NO idea about the severity of my disabilities. But, He swears that I am making up my problems, and his lawyer are trying to find any excuse that he can to intimidate me and break me down. He sent a set of “discovery” papers to my mother, asking her the income in this house and details about her money situation (any stocks, bonds, winnings) She returned the papers, and the lawyer decided to delay court because he felt that he needed more “information.”

He has sent a second set of discovery papers, but this time around the questions got way too personal. He wants to know very personal information about my MOTHER’s income, my mother and my “criminal record” though we don’t even have one! He asked what my adopted brother’s social security income. He also wants to know why “any doctor would see me fit as disabled.” We have no idea how to answer these, and why he’s asking. There are many more questions about my mother and my personal information that have nothing to do with the case. I am tired of being harassed and want to know how I can control the situation better.

Each question is like a slap in the face. We feel that we should not have to share that kind of information, especially my mother’s, to my father’s lawyer. Since I can’t afford a lawyer, I don’t know what to do. I am getting threatening letters at least 3 times a week and court is on June 23rd. He has threatened to try to get my mother put in jail for not filling out the second set of papers. She wrote a letter to the judge, stating that she felt the papers were irrelevant to the case and over the top, ect. I had to tell my doctor that I am dreading hearing this attorney completely BASH me because I’m different. I want to cry just thinking about what I am going to have to deal with in court AGAIN. I feel like I am a bad person, like a criminal, and I have never even had a traffic ticket. I tried to have a relationship with my dad but he didn’t want it. I have been to court enough times to know how hard it is to keep calm when a cold-hearted lawyer is saying that I am making this stuff up. Despite seeing one of the area’s best doctors, 10+ visits to the hospital, and having being proven disabled, this isn’t enough to prove to my father (who was never there for any of it) that I am sick. I want to be “normal.” My doctor is concerned because my father has stressed me out to the point where my illnesses get worse. We haven’t had a response from the judge stating that either we have fill and send the discovery papers in. So what I am asking is that….

1. Is it a law (in Indiana) to HAVE to fill out any discovery papers a lawyer has sent? (The judge didn’t order them, just the lawyer.)

2. Is there anything I can do to stop the lawyer and my father from harassing me? Is there any way I can take my father to court for emotional abuse?

3. How can I get my point across loud and clear that my problems are real? What kind of proof should I bring to prove this? (I’ve already proven before with copies of my Rx prescriptions, social security letters, school records that stated that I was ill even during my teen years)

4. How (or can I) get the judge to order my father to present all of HIS income, stocks, bonds and whatever else to court? Since my mother and I ended up having to do it (though we have nothing to hide…)

I know this is a little more complicated than the usual yahoo question, but any advice is appreciated. I just want a peaceful life. Any help is very much appreciated, Karma will reward your good deed thanks a bunch!
Thanks for that wonderful insight, I knew what he was doing was wrong, but didn’t know it was against the law. I will make a trip to the court house ASAP. I didn’t know I had that option! Also thanks for the well wishes and luck, it means more than you know!
Thanks for that wonderful insight, I knew what he was doing was wrong, but didn’t know it was against the law. I will make a trip to the court house ASAP. I didn’t know I had that option! Also thanks for the well wishes and luck, it means more than you know!

Need A lot of Advice about Confusing Ex! Please Help Me! I am Desperate!!!?

Hi guys I know this is pretty long but please help me out if you can find it in your heart to aid a really down college student.

I will choose a best answer and dish out points whenever possible

Alright so basically, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up like 3 months ago because she said that she needed time to “grow up”. Basically, we decided to still be friends because we really still like each other and get along great. However, I am still very much in love with her.

The problem is that lately I’ve been feeling really down around my ex and kind of jealous and I don’t know why. She’s basically perfect at everything. She’s very attractive because a lot of guys flirt with her, wears size 00 pants, exercises constantly, her parents are wealthier than mine as she lives in a half a million dollar house and her dad retired at the age of 48, she always gets whatever she wants (material-wise) i.e. she has two pairs of Uggs, wears all Abercrombie clothing, gets the newest iPod every year, breaks her cell phone at least 3 times a year, has two pairs of Sperry type shoes, and gets Tiffany and Co. jewelry costing around $175 once a year (She gets all this stuff usually for Christmas or just because presents but she always gets whats on her list of wants), she makes friends easily, has time to join lots of clubs in college, works as a store model for Abercrombie and has a higher GPA than me while majoring in journalism, and sometimes I feel like she has all of God’s blessing even though she is extremely atheist.

However, I am the complete opposite as I always work for what I get. I’m in one of the top 10 business schools in the nation but struggle to maintain a 3.0 GPA and spend most of my time studying, I haven’t met very many people in college because I’m trying to save money by living at home with my parents (my ex lives in the dorms which her parents pay for even though her parents live 2 blocks away from campus), I spend all my free time at home, I don’t find myself as attractive because I’ve only worked for American Eagle and I am Asian, my parents want me to earn things so I have to work to pay for my clothes, cell phone, car repairs and other stuff I want unlike my ex.

I just feel crappy to the point that I’ve been unmotivated to study and I want to sleep all day. I’ve stopped going to the gym and I have been wallowing in my own self-pity, I’m always wishing that my parents were a lot richer because my ex gets to finish college at her own pace while I’m pressured to finish in 4 while her parents can also afford to let her take summer classes not only at where we go to school but to other colleges such as New York University and/or Chicago to make her workload easier while I don’t have that luxury. She also got a chance to study abroad twice.

The only thing I feel like I have an advantage over her is that I know how to invest and save my money better than her because she can’t save her own money at all. She doesn’t even know how the basic definition of a stock or how a credit and debit card work. I am very ambitious and always look for ways to make extra money through investing and saving but I always still feel down because I know that she’ll still get ahead of me in the future because her father is already investing money for her for her retirement in the thousands already.

Not only does she get all that stuff but her little sister and her brother get all the stuff they want to. Her sister basically gets everything my ex does like a new iPod at the same time my ex does and wears Abercrombie only also. However, if she doesn’t get her way at all, she always throws a fit (I’ve been there to witness it) until she gets her way. I don’t understand how she gets all this stuff either. Is it possible to get a life like this when her dad worked as an engineer for GM for 20 years and is now retired and her mom is a territorial manager for Johnson and Johnson?

Despite all this I feel like God’s let me down. Why does he bless people that don’t believe in him? Should I stay away from my ex even though I still love her? She is white and we’ve known each other for 4 years and dated each other for 2 and a half years. Can a relationship with 2 different people like this work out again? Why do I feel this way? I get really jealous because no girls flirt with me at college compared to guys hitting on her. What should I do? Am I even in her league at all?